Marrying Sex Dolls: Why a Man Advocates Synthetic Love

Davecat met his future wife, Sidore Kuroneko, at a Gothic club in 2000, so that’s the story. The less romantic but perhaps more authentic version is that he saved a year and a half to buy her online. She spent about $ 6,000.

Sidore is Realbyll, made by Abyss Creations, and has a female shape. She is covered with artificial skin made of silicone, so it is soft. These high-end, anatomically correct-even equipped with fake tongues-seemingly love dolls (or capital D dolls) made for sex. But 40-year-old Davecat (nickname obtained from a video game he now likes to walk through) and others who call themselves iDollators see their dolls as companions to life, not sex toys. Davecat and Sidore (or sometimes referred to as her Shi-chan) apparently did not legally marry, but they do have commensurate wedding rings, saying “Synthetik [sic] love will last forever,” he said that they are considering a 15th anniversary ceremony.

Based on the background of Davecat’s relationship, his baby mistress (and Sidore’s girlfriend) Elena Vostrikova saw Davecat and Sidore in Guys and Dolls and emigrated to them from Russia. Davecat bought Elena or Lenka in 2012, and the three of them now share a one-bedroom apartment in southeastern Michigan.

I discussed the ups and downs of the synthetic relationship with Davecat via email.

When and why did you buy your first sex doll? Was you thinking about company or was it just for sex?

I bought Mr. Shi in 2000. Admittedly, the reason I bought her was 70% sex and 30% companionship. I have always been attracted to artificial women such as mannequins, especially Gynoids, which are robots that imitate human females. At the end of 1998, one of my best friends showed me the RealDoll website because she knew I was passionate about artificial women. I think they are great works. Having one can not only eliminate loneliness, but also be great for sex. I am right!

When did you start to think that Sidore is not just a sex toy but someone / something that has something to do with you?

In fact, it took me a long time to see Shi Can as a comprehensive person, not just a thing. When I first opened her box, a lot happened. I was immediately stunned by her lifelike beauty. When I collected myself mentally, took her out of the crate, and sat on the sofa, I just held her in my arms for a while. If you forgive the pun, it feels so natural and natural. To me, it seems normal to treat something like an organic woman just like a real organic woman.

Part of the (sexual) appeal of synthetics is how much they look like organics. If you have a robot shaped like a refrigerator, it won’t be as attractive as a humanoid robot. People will be more willing to interact with humanoids. Furthermore, if the humanoid robot has artificial skin and sounds like a human, most people who deal with it may even forget that they are robots. With Sidore, her lottery was completed in an instant. Never before-(or any other doll) is just my object.

Have you always been interested in sex dolls? If so, does it always appear sexually?

I’ve always been fascinated by the ideas of artificial people, especially artificial women. I was identified as a technical homosexual before I knew the doll existed, even before I knew it. Tech lovers are people who are attracted to robots. Like any subculture, there are many shadows in terminology. Some technical lovers prefer their organic companions to be dressed as robots. Other robots attract robots that do not necessarily have a humanoid appearance, such as R2-D2. I prefer humanoid robots covered in artificial meat, so they look organic at first glance. Geminoid-F from Hiroshi Ishiguro and Gynoids from the Actoid series are good examples.

Obviously, I have sexual appeal to synthetic people, such as Gynoids and Dolls, but a greater part of their appeal is that they are humans, but they do not have any unpleasant qualities of organic, flesh and blood people. Synthesizers will never lie to you, deceive you, criticize you, or otherwise be annoying. It is difficult to find organics without organics, and there are still few companions to become an organic.

In your episode of “My Weird Addiction,” you talk about how you fully realized that she was a doll, but didn’t want to pretend she was alone. However, you think you are married to Sidore, and the marriage / relationship is essentially two-sided. How do you reconcile these two things at the same time?

Sidore and Elena both have two backstory. Sidore is the daughter of a Japanese father and a British mother. Born in Japan and raised in Manchester, England. Elena is similar. She grew up in Vladivostok, Russia. Another backstory they have is that they are dolls. Self-conscious dolls, but still dolls. In a backstory, they have food they like. On the other hand, they don’t eat because they have no digestive tract … because they are dolls. you understood.

I kept this dichotomy until I had Shi-chan and Lenka, and it didn’t seem to disappear anytime soon. When I write about their roles, each of them expresses himself through the Internet. They all have their own Twitter feeds, and Shi-chan has a Tumblr. Playing with dolls can make me comedy from this situation, for example, when Sidore wants to know why not only do I not remove my sinuses during an allergy attack, but writing a detailed history for them can train my creative writing skills, And make them more “human.” Like I said, this dichotomy may not be resolved soon.

Have you ever had a relationship with a woman and would you like it in the future? Do you find yourself attracted to human women?

I have been involved with organic women before and after Shi-entered my life. When I say “relationship”, I mean “get along where I am another person;” I have never been with an organic woman who has no boyfriend yet.

I don’t consider myself a convincing person. When I was growing up, my father always forced me to do what I didn’t want to do. As a result, I never wanted to be an aggressive guy. So instead of asking me what troubles I had, I didn’t consider treating me as a boyfriend, I just wouldn’t force the problem.

At least visually, I still attract organic women. But just because someone is attractive doesn’t mean that their mentality or personality fits into myself. I think that instead of pursuing an ideal person, either you don’t appear first or you are already with other people, why not buy a doll? I don’t gamble and am keen to seize opportunities. We’ve all seen relationships like this: things started wonderfully, and then eventually collapsed. A friend of mine divorced after 17 years of marriage. That’s a huge investment in time, money, and emotions, and I’m not interested in people who may be released on bail or become unpleasant at any time in my life. After all, romantically integrates with organic women “

Back in the early 2000s, my goal was to buy at least one doll from every company nearby. One of the goals of my blog is to introduce the idea of ​​a synthetic partner to someone who is not an iDollator or a technical partner, so that multiple dolls from multiple companies allow me to compare and contrast so people can understand what makes them Different reasons and choose the right person for them. Also, I always thought it was cool to take a photo with multiple doll interactions. This will further make them look less like “things” but more like people. But, in fact, there are about 20 different companies in about six countries, but unfortunately I don’t have the money. So now my goal is about five. I wouldn’t have more than five spaces without buying a two-bedroom apartment.

In a virtual environment, I think it would be nice to find a silicone companion for Sidore, so whenever I go out, she is not alone or bored. Because they are both bisexual, they can enjoy each other on multiple levels. Adding Elena to our partnership, if any, will only improve because we all thank each other for what they have to offer. In addition, if and when I manage to get additional dolls, Siddor will always be my wife; I have no intention of marrying any other doll we have.

My marriage to Sidore is open because she allows me to do whatever I want, as long as it is only for a synthetic woman. By the way, these conditions are exactly the same, and I can let her do extracurricular activities. Very simple, but very simple!

But you say, “Before and after Shi Shi entered my life, you have been related to organic women.” Is there a story there? Does your relationship / relationship with an organic woman lead to your relationship with Sidore and vice versa?

I saw an organic guy, a colleague, from several jobs, they knew I had Shi Shi. That was when I went back with the mentality that Sidore is still my wife, but I still look for organic plexiglass from time to time to be a friend. Our relationship started well, but after a few months, whenever I wanted to work with her, she always had something happening. When I realized, I fought for myself: When I have a doll that loves me, why should I waste my time trying to let her hang out and participate in me romantically? In addition, she told her colleagues that it was a bit like a match, because she was interested in the other two guys when she saw me. Since I was also not competitive, I decided to pursue her was a wasteful effort,

Then in 2003 I bought a small house. I’m trying to help her get rid of her bad relationship. She claims to be one of my best friends. She is not very romantic to me, but I think if I help her and I live under the same roof as me, she will be more bullish on me eventually. It turned out that it didn’t happen because I later discovered that she was a sick liar with a cola addiction, and I moved out of the house after only four months of living there. That really made me go home. I think I trust too much about some organic foods. Some of them may be too unpredictable. I’m grateful for the consistency of the composition.

What is your typical week? Do you spend most of your time at Sidore and Elena’s house, or go out with friends? Did you take any of them with you when you went out? I imagine people in the public will react strangely-will it prevent you from becoming a partner like a movie?

Contrary to most TV shows you see, you believe I’m actually out! Okay, I will say. I’m not a “person”. Although I love my friends, introverts like me are better off spending more time alone. Having said that, whenever I am with my partner, I always have a good time.

During this week, I usually work-I do data entry and other operations in the machining shop-and then I get home and either go online or interact with Sidore and Elena. My job is to get me up early, so I usually go to bed in the early evening on Friday evenings, and then meet my friends online to find video games that are popular with us, or to hang out with them. On Saturday nights, I also meet up with friends, and on Sundays, I usually spend time with rubber troublemakers, taking pictures, watching movies or TV shows, writing or doing research to “shout and hear echo” or get up. other things.

Contrary to what most people think, I do n’t bring Shi Chan or Lenka when I go out. For one, they are heavy (78 pounds and 57 pounds, respectively), and for me, I wasn’t confused because I thought that bringing them to my side wouldn’t cause much trouble. Also, I don’t want to put myself or any synthetic glass with me at risk. I don’t trust random people so much that we won’t be attacked verbally or physically. People have a long and dirty history of violence about things they don’t understand. Or, someone told me.